What’s a wedding vision? And do you need one?

What the heck is a wedding vision anyway? 

I want you to think of it as the general outline for your planning actions. Your wedding vision is a tool that you’ll use over and over, to bring you back to center; especially when details and decision making begin to overwhelm you. 

I call it your baseline; the root from which all of your additional wedding decisions will grow. 

Your wedding vision is a compilation of the basic details, photos, colors, adjectives and/or experiences that will represent and/or illustrate the fundamental framework for your plans. 

Determining the who, what, when, where & why of your wedding is the first step in collaborating with your fiancé to get on the same page about your plans. 

And Yes…a wedding vision comes before you book or buy a single thing. 

Capturing your vision can take many forms. It can be written or turned into a more creative visual collection, often referred to as a vision or mood board. 

Your wedding vision is the cohesive outline to your wedding plans; setting the tone for your budget, vendors, and the elements & details you will provide.

Either way, your wedding vision will help you keep your planning priorities at the forefront of your decisions and actions. 

Baseline is one of the foundational steps in dramatically lessening the opportunity for miscommunication about your wedding plans between you, your fiancé, and your families. 

If you want to go from overwhelmed to under control establishing your wedding baseline is your best bet.

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Great Weddings Start With Great Guest Lists

I’ve recently read 2 posts on LinkedIn. #1, a couple’s perspective about celebrating “gratitude” as they were invited and attended the celebration of a dear friend’s wedding. It was a beautiful, heart-felt post about what being invited meant to them, as well as, all the things the experience reminded them to be grateful for.

Beautiful, right?

The second post was about the cost & frustration of the rudeness of people…guests in particular, that RSVP, then don’t show up.

And friends…I have thoughts. I think its time to challenge the way in which we approach choosing & inviting people to be our guests.

Don’t get me wrong, I get it…how many guests you’ll expect sets the tone for venue, spending, and so much more. So I know just how monumental it can feel to get your guest list just right.

But I also recognize that the way we seem to be conditioned to inviting people at all has shifted from the spirit of generous and warm reception.

I always encourage my clients to invite the people who matter. Yet have come to learn how difficult a task that can be for some- how to determine who matters.

So, if you’re stuck starting any guest list, I want you to consider this…start by only writing down the names that follow my “Don’t Care” Questionnaire method.

I think you’ll find drafting your guest list much easier if you start with the names that don’t care what you wear, don’t care what you serve, don’t care what you gift, don’t care what color the napkins are or how they are folded. If you were getting married in a brown paper bag, they would be delighted to celebrate with the same love, energy, and enthusiasm.

Start here…and see how you feel.

When you are inviting the people with substance in your life…I mean really matter. Then should they have to cancel, their absence is felt; not based on the cost of their meal but with an understanding that life happens and some things can’t be avoided. And it likely wasn’t an easy decision to have to bow out in the 9th hour.

Whatever your next celebration, wedding, shower, graduation, or retirement…fill you guest list with the people that spark joy, kindness, community and fellowship; rather than the people that will feel insulted if you don’t invite them.

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Ceremony Bars Help Guests Beat Summer Heat.

Good Day Net Besties, 

Before you go getting all excited at the thought of pumpkin spice and fall wedding inspiration boards; this is your gentle reminder that it’s still summer. Today, I want to encourage and empower you to find your vision and version of Forever After with this one minute wedding planning {OMWP} tip. 

Summer weddings are beautiful and make for some of the most “wow” worthy photos. But outdoor summer events are literally a HOT ticket for your guests.  

Let’s be honest, you know what you are asking of your guests… wear their best threads, show up 30 minutes early, sit…and wait…in the blistering heat…for you. 

Hosting with kindness and consideration will have you explore every option to ensure your guests are comfortable. 

And if you are committed to an outdoor celebration, here’s a thought– consider a ceremony beverage bar. Whether you offer cocktails, mocktails, or just chilled bottles of water, it’ll go a long way in making guests feel welcomed, while helping them to stay hydrated and beat the heat waiting for the festivities to begin.

Adding a beverage bar to your ceremony doesn’t have to be complicated. Consider self-serve dispensers filled with infused waters or bright colored teas, punch, or sangrias. 

Host and be hosted well this summer!

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Got 1-Minute? Plan Your Wedding.

Let’s face it, we are all a little short on time; trying to do more with less and trying to get more done in less time. Well I’d like to welcome you to the One Minute Wedding Planner. One minute reads on our blog and one minute reels on our social platforms to help you learn how to host and be hosted well, especially when you only have a minute to spare.

Let’s go ahead and address the elephant in the room. This format won’t be for everyone, and it’s alright with me (yes, I sang that in my Janet Jackson voice). 

Listen, if you’ve been dreaming of your wedding day since you were 8…probably isn’t the space for you. If you have a six figure budget…probably not the way you’ll spend your time. 

But if you are a busy, working couple and life is full right now, boy did you hit the jackpot. You are already short on time and the capacity to plan. You don’t want to spend all of your nights & weekends trying to figure things out. You really want things to be simple and for things to make sense. 

If you’ve been saying to yourself, it can’t be this complicated; then, you’re right! And there aren’t many checklists that’ll tell you differently. That’s the problem I’m looking to solve. 

If you’re short on time and need the wedding planning process broken down into bite sized pieces. Maybe, just, maybe this is the place for you. 

Are you down to follow along for more? Well, I’m glad to have you. 

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6 Guidelines for a Cannabis Friendly Celebration

Marijuana has undergone a major make-over in recent years. No longer a taboo stigma, the use of marijuana products are now commonly promoted as an alternative to anxiety, stress, and other medical conditions.

Its elevation in social acceptability has the popular plant on the rise as the “hot” experience for social gatherings, dinner parties and yes, even weddings. The interest to creatively incorporate it into drinks, bites, desserts, décor, and favors, continues to increase.

After learning about a shocking arrest where a bride and caterer were charged with the lacing of guests’ food at a wedding…without guest knowledge. I couldn’t believe it!

Needless to say, I felt it high time (pun intended) to address a few best practices when adding the edibles experience to your event.

Now, you should know, I am not a cannabis expert; in any way. Truthfully, I’ve never tried it, in any form. Nor have I coordinated an event with it, just yet.

I am, however, an events and etiquette expert. And there are guidelines and best practices when hosting anyone that apply to this unique experience as well.

Let’s agree that it is unacceptable to drug anyone. No matter your personal stance on drugs and/or alcohol use, you are not allowed to make that choice or decision for someone else.

What other rules can you expect to follow? Let’s talk about a few.

It must be legal in your state. The use of marijuana, products and oils are not legal everywhere. Be certain to know and understand the state laws you must abide by wherever you are hosting a gathering.

Work with experts. There is a safety and a science to cooking, serving, and ingesting cannabis products. Experts will offer you options and help you make wise decisions that will provide a great experience, while keeping you and your guests safe. Do your research to find experienced vendors for catering, bartending, and “bud”tending.

Make it known. Make sure elements that contain cannabis are marked clearly for your guests. Here’s why. Your guests have lives outside of your celebration…with JOBS being at the top of that list. It being legal in the state doesn’t make it legal on everyone’s job; not to mention other medical conditions or addictions unbeknownst to you. Be sure to include clear signage allowing you protection and guests the choice to partake or not.

Offer Alternatives. If you have a mixed crowd, be sure to provide food and beverages that are cannabis free. Much like everything else, everyone doesn’t do everything. Everyone doesn’t drink alcohol, eat meat, etc. so alternative options will be much appreciated. This allows for all guests to be included regardless of personal preference.

Crowd Control. When creating your guests list, be sure to strongly consider whether or not children or anyone under the legal participation age is welcome. This decision will naturally help you determine what kind of set-up and support you’ll need with accessibility and availability during your event.

Think it Through. Be sure to consider if additional safety and security measures are needed. Should you provide a make your selections limited, establish a cut off time (much like a bar), or provide transportation for guests to travel safely to and from your event. Think through the entire experience for yourself and your guests. It will make a much more enjoyable experience for all involved.

Choosing a “higher” celebration experience is your prerogative. I will always encourage you to be a courteous & considerate host/hostess when combining your vision and your guest experience into a delightful experience for all.